If you are like the majority of couples, you have probably experienced a lull in your bedroom activities at one point or another. Sometimes work, stress, financial obligations, or kids can leave to feeling to drained to satisfy your mate at the end of the day. But when you consider that sex can actually help you deal with the stresses of day-to-day life, you have to ask yourself - why aren’t you taking advantage of this amazing natural anti-stress?
There are many other reasons why your sex life may be put on a shelf for a time, but stress is perhaps the biggest underlying problem for a sudden drop in libido. However, there are many other reasons that cause both long and short-term libido problems for both men and women. To remedy these problems, there are also a wide range of prescription and over-the-counter products that claim to restore or spice up a failing sex life. Many of these are known to have side-effects such as headaches, impaired vision, dependency and in the worst case scenario, heart attacks. Despite claims to the contrary, these types of drugs, such as Viagra, are truly meant to correct erectile dysfunction, not bring the lust back to the bedroom. Just because the man is able to achieve an erection, does not make it an erotic experience. What many people are in search of is a good old fashioned aphrodisiac. Very few people actually need drugs like Viagra, Cialis or Levitra. The fact of the matter is that most people can treat their low libido levels not by taking erection-enhancing drugs but by correcting their diet, attitude and experimenting with natural and herbal aphrodisiacs.
Correcting your diet and eating light
Eating right is the first thing you need to do to spice up your sex life, but by no means is the only thing you should try. With a well balanced diet, you will find yourself more eager and willing to at least get things going. Try to avoid any foods that cause you indigestion and acid-reflux. As soon as the indigestion starts, you’re bound to be irritable and in no mood to be frisky. One of the less obvious suggestions you need to consider is to not overeat. Avoid eating to a point where you feel bloated, heavy or lackadaisical. If you are planning a special night out on the town, think about sharing a meal or visiting a restaurant with lighter fare. Most restaurant meals are packed with calories, fat and ridiculously large desserts that would put anyone out of the mood.
Not only will portion control help put you in the mood, but there are also a wide variety of foods that have been proven to make you think twice about turning the TV on in bed. Some great aphrodisiacs to nibble on include:
Chocolate – Aztecs were the first to use chocolate to seduce their mates and the tradition has continued to this day and spread across the globe.
Asparagus – Your mother always told you to eat your vegetables. This green stalky vegetable was traditionally eaten without silverware and has been used for centuries as an aphrodisiac.
Oysters – This widely coveted delicacy can be difficult to open if you choose to eat raw oysters. So if you are going for their widely acclaimed aphrodisiac effects, avoid injury and eat them cooked.
Strawberries – Looking for a seductive dessert? Try a simple dessert of strawberries and whipped cream and expect decadent returns.
Avocados – In Aztec, the name of an avocado tree is “the testicle tree.” Today we simply recognize the stimulating effects of avocados and it’s scrumptious counterpart, guacamole.
Attitude is everything…well, almost
One of the most overlooked recipes for a natural increase in bedroom fun is a good attitude. Instead of telling yourself you’re too tired, too overworked or too burdened with your everyday activities, try telling yourself how much you are looking forward to the intimacy and snuggling with your spouse. Promise yourself that you will initiate things with your spouse at least XX times per week. Choose whatever number is comfortable to you. Chances are that once you change your attitude and look forward to it, you will enjoy it more too. Don’t expect every time to be a scene from an Oscar-winning romance scene, but expect that you will wonder why you would ever avoid initiating it in the first place.
Natural herbal remedies
Natural herbal remedies can often contain a variety of herbs, spices and flowers right from your own garden. If you lack a green thumb, space or are ready to raise your libido levels now, you can find all sorts of great herbal supplements and remedies at the grocery store or an online drug store. Along with herbal supplements, you can also find ready-made tonics, creams, oils and pills that will have the same desired effects without the undesirable side effects of prescription and other similar manufactured treatments.
While there is no magic pill, herbal aphrodisiacs are thought to help bring back the desire that has been lost. Herbal remedies can serve to increase the production of estrogen, progesterone and testosterone. Other herbs can help you feel more calm and others still can help your circulatory or nervous system function properly for sexual activities. One you are feeling good and have an enhanced emotional state, it will invariably bring your sensual side thus turning you on.
There are many herbs that can be used as aphrodisiacs, many of them can be bought at the store and cooked with food, others can be bought in pill form but should have the overall desired effect: enhancing your sex life. Common aphrodisiac herbs and remedies include:
Ginkgo biloba is one of the most popular herbal remedies and attracts a huge following for it’s aphrodisiac effects. In particular, ginko biloba is thought to be of particular help to males who have trouble achieving erections. It is also known to bring back the sexual desire to those on medication such as Prozac. In a recent study, it actually increased the sex drive of over 80% of those who took part in the trial.
Ginkgo is said to be helpful in sending blood flow to the genital area, it relaxes the blood vessels and is said to boost the flow of blood which improves and maintains the erection. In research half of those men who used ginkgo showed beneficial effects after 6 to 8 weeks of treatment and after 6 months half had regained full potency. It is also said to boost the erection and increase the sex drive in smokers and those who suffer fatigue.
Korean ginseng is the favorite among all herbal remedies for spicing up your sex life; it has been used in China successfully for over 7000 years. It is said to have properties that balance your sex life, it improves the blood flow to man’s genitals and those who have problems with their sex life due to stress, fatigue, overwork or hormone imbalances
Arginine is another great herbal remedy that has been tested to be effective in treating sex drive. It works by increasing blood flow, DHEA – which helps the body produce the hormones estrogen and testosterone.
Muira puama is an herbal remedy from Brazil and has been widely used for many years by the natives of the Amazon and Orinoco river basin. Natives have used it as a way to combat impotence and to increase and enhance sexual desire. The natives have another more popular name for it “potency wood”. It is thought to give a boost to the sex hormones and stimulate sexual drive through the central nervous system. It is also said to work wonders for those with a lack of sex drive and to help the man gain an erection when they are having temporary difficulties.
Yohimbe is an herbal remedy that originated in Africa and has been shown to drastically increase one’s libido and to be an excellent cure for impotence. Unlike most herbal remedies, yohimbe can have a mild side effect of increasing blood pressure.
Katana, meaning “sword” in Japanese is a formula is said to be a formula from Asia which increases the male libido and sexual performance, it contains all natural ingredients which have been used for centuries. The product claims to also strengthen the erection and help the man to overcome insecurities and master sexual dysfunction.
Provestra are pills that can be bought in monthly supplies and contain 100% natural herbal ingredients. They claim to increase the women’s sexual response and sex drive, they work by restoring the hormones and it is also claimed they can increase the pleasure of the women’s orgasm in both frequency and the intensity.
Vigorelle is advertised as an erotic stimulation cream to boost arousal instantaneously. It is a 100% all-natural herbal topical lubricant that is applied directly to the clitoris and immediately triggers response and sensitivity. It is a popular sexual aid and has often been called “the woman’s Viagra”, it can be applied before or during lovemaking and is said to bring unbelievable intense excitement and orgasms beyond all boundaries.
St Johns wort is a very popular herbal remedy that is used for a wide variety of illnesses and problems. It is used to help lift the mood and so boost the sex drive, in recent tests St Johns wort helped and improved 60% of women’s sex life who had a loss due to pre-menopause. It is thought to be most helpful to those who suffer a loss of sex drive due to anxiety, stress, tiredness or depression.
Damiana is a traditional herbal aphrodisiac from Central America; it boosts circulation to the genital area and increases sensitivity to the nerve endings. This brings about an increase in sexual desire, is said to enhance sexual pleasure and stimulate the sexual performance. It is thought to work by gently irritating the urogenital tract to produce a stimulating effect. Those who have difficulty in achieving an erection and who have a loss of sex drive linked to a decrease in sensitivity are thought to benefit the most, the easiest and pleasantest way to take this herb is by brewing a tea.
VigRX - This 100% natural oil contains some of the most powerful sexual stimulants that have been used for centuries including ginseng and ginkgo. VigRX oil works quickly and immediately to improve the quality of the erection and brings increased pleasure to orgasm. Using the skin to deliver the stimulants, oil is applied directly onto the penis and the effects are seen and felt immediately. The oil provides general arousal, increased sensitivity and circulation. It is also said to increase the man’s staying power and boost the strength of the orgasm.
Many of the single herbal aphrodisiacs listed above are combined formulas and there are many, many more that may carry exotic names such as Passion Flower, Wicked Willy or Super Sex. Combinations such as these often include many different ingredients that have been carefully selected to work together in increasing your sex drive.
Safety of herbal aphrodisiacs
Most herbal remedies are considered to be safe and only few have any side effects at all. However, it is always wise to check with your doctor to see if a particular herb is right for you or if it will interact with any medications that you may be taking. When consulting your doctor, make sure the herb is safe for you.
You may find that your doctor is overly eager to prescribe some sort of manufactured drug such as Viagra to treat your problems. He may even argue that herbal remedies don’t work at all. The fact of the matter is that herbal remedies work in a much gentler way than do prescription medications. For this reason you will find yourself more interested in sex, but you will always have to take some initiative in the bedroom. Don’t expect herbal or manufactured remedies to do all the work for you.
Tantalize your sense of smell with essential oils
Essential oils taken from herbs and plants have been used for thousands of years to stimulate your sense of smell and spice up your intimate life. Of the five senses, smell is very elusive and very little is known. However, it is thought that the sense of smell is strongly linked to sex and there are many must have bedroom scents all have been used for thousands of years to raise libido and peak sexual interest. However, not all scents work for all people – don’t be afraid to experiment with a few until you find one or more that work for you and your partner.
Aphrodisiac scents are typically on the rich and robust side of smells. Their tendency to be spicy and warm in scent, such as cinnamon, relates directly for your need to be warm when aroused. You’ll find that most aphrodisiac scents fall into the warm or spicy category and frilly, fruity or light scents probably won’t do much to arouse you.
To properly incorporate essential oils into your normal routine, remember that just a little goes a very long way. You’ll find that just 2-3 drops in enough to enjoy the scent for quite some time. You never want to apply essential oils directly to the skin because they are almost always a skin irritant and can cause great discomfort if used alone. One great way to utilize them is to add a few drops to a bottle of almond oil to create your own sensual massage oil. Use the oil to seduce your partner with a sensual massage that will peak both your interests.
You can create your own sensual room mist by filling a sprayer bottle partway with water and adding a drop or two of your favorite essential oil. Since essential oils do not mix with water, you will have to shake the bottle often to keep them oils mixed up with the water. Use the mist setting and mist your bedroom, sheets or anywhere you need a little more spice.
There is nothing as romantic for setting the mood for a sensual night than a candlelit room and by carefully selecting a properly scented candle you can greatly add to the ambiance. Most herbal stores will stock candles that are scented with a wide variety of herbs and spices. Choose those aphrodisiac scents such as ylang ylang, sandalwood, rosemary, bergamot or geranium. These are all excellent choices for spicing up your sex life but it goes without saying that the only thing you will want to be burning is your desire, so use great care with the naked flame.
Some common aphrodisiac essential oils include:
Ylang-ylang – is a flowery scent with a much sweeter smell than most aphrodisiac scents. It works great when mixed with other, slightly spicier scents.
Patchouli – As one of the most common ingredients in high end men’s cologne, patchouli is known for it’s luxurious and relaxing scent.
Clove – a common kitchen ingredient produced a warm, slightly spicy scent sure to arouse and stimulate more than just your taste buds.
Sandalwood – Most seductive in its natural form, sandalwood has a strong earthy and woody scent that is often attempted synthetically. However, the synthetic sandalwood does not have the same aphrodisiac effect as true sandalwood.
Jasmine – A strong scent is produced from this small white flower. Jasmine is a wonderful addition to massage oils or as a candle scent.
Vanilla – Vanilla is sure to make you and your loved one feel warm and fuzzy inside. Researchers can’t even explain the overwhelming calming effects vanilla has on people, but we know it’s a great scent to make your partner feel close.
Musk – Musk is a very natural scent that will drive your partner wild.
Spice Up Your Sex Life with Natural Aphrodisiacs
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